missmatie:This is realllllllllly weird lmao
This is really NORMAL.
Except we never see it-so it is terrifying and uncomfortable when it happens.
(Mostly because people would laugh or be unkind)I own a sex shop. Once a woman bled on our chair during an interview. She was horrified and felt ashamed because it was in some way unprofessional. We weren’t bothered. We said ‘what better place to work on being ok with your body than at a feminist sex shop?’
Bleeding is normal and dealing with it is one of the most pervasive ways women are complicit in their silence.Some men bleed too. How would you react to that? For many men who are Trans the act of bleeding is a security threat.
Fuck off with your lolz.
I understand that bleeding is normal, but if I accidentally cut myself I’d, you know, grab a paper towel and wipe it up.
It’s not that I’m shocked and ASHAMED you’re a woman and part of that is a semi-monthly cycle. That’s a biological function and that’s fine, believe me. But if you pee your clothes, it’s embarrassing. If you accidentally lose control of your bowels, it’s embarrassing.
That’s the way I approach it mentally. I don’t think that’s anti-feminist or anything.The point is that women are shamed for this more than they should. Yes, it is embarassing, but should not be to the extent that women are treated as disgusting far and wide.
I’ve heard stories of girls leaking, who were my friend’s neighbour’s cousin’s classmate (or even further away from me). They are usually told with a lot of laughing and the implication that almost nothing worse could have happened.
This shows how much humiliation a woman goes through if someone sees her leak. It is something that doesn’t just embarass her for a few moments, but something complete strangers will talk about. It will make it difficult for her to be respected at all for years.That is not comparable to cutting yourself. The reaction to which will be sympathy before ridicule.
Of course the best thing would be to protect yourself, so it doesn’t happen. However, some girls have very irregular periods, or had regular periods, count on that and suddenly get their period early anyway. It doesn’t hurt the same way as a cut, some people don’t have the tell-tale cramps either and will not notice until someone else does.
I hope this will help :)
Oh, shaming and humiliation is a terrible response to something like that. I agree with you whole-heartedly there.
Yes, I already gathered from reading your blog that you were the kind of person who meant it in the best possible way <3
